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道歉的正确姿势:对不起,我错了

爱筵关注 发表于 2018年04月12日 这个世界,有的人打死也不道歉,有的人假装道歉, 还有的人虽然道歉了,依然我行我素,不同的价值观导演出不同的道歉姿势。 真诚地说一声“对不起,我错了”到底有多难? 这一周可以说是“道歉周”,互联网巨头Facebook小马扎因用户隐私泄露向公众道歉了,昨天他还接受国会议员长达五小时的质询;知名移动互联网媒体, 《今日头条》创始人昨天也道歉了,态度被媒体界认为很“诚恳。” 然而,魏则西去世后两年了,百度不但没有道歉,还认为用户是“自愿拿隐私换便利”;20年过去了,疑似性侵北大女生的沈阳教授没有道歉;北大公开了当时的处理文件, 该做的他们似乎都做了,也没有道歉的意思;武汉理工大学自杀学子的“义父”也至今没道歉。 任何一个机构,一个名人,一个普通人,该不该道歉,什么时候道歉,以什么姿势和方式来道歉。不仅是一门学问,也是投射人性光明和黑暗的棱镜, 更是一幅人间万象百态图。不同的价值观,导致了不同的道歉逻辑和姿势。 “打死也不道歉” 有一种不道歉,是“打死也不道歉。”比如一些强势的权力、机构组织或个人,让他们道歉是很难的;因为他们以为自己是不可替代的。比如百度等垄断大佬们。 很多道歉是在巨大的压力下才做出。比如有的是在消费者和用户的压力下道歉,有的是在权力的压力下道歉;有的是在面临巨大的损失时才道歉。不见棺材不掉泪。 还有的尽管不可一世,但遇到了高出自己一头的大个子,立刻降服,在“一物降一物”的逻辑下才肯道歉。 还有一种“打死也不道歉”,倒不是因为强势,而是因为不敢承认错误,一旦道歉,意味着要承担相应的后果,声败名裂,罚款和监狱。所以,这些人对外打死也不承认, 内心其实充满恐惧,长期被真相的疚愧折磨着,没有被饶恕的平安。 人不能和人道歉,还可能是完全不觉得自己有错,没有看到带给别人的伤害;或因为骄傲,不肯放下自己。或“只看见弟兄眼中的刺,看不见自己眼中的梁木”这些都会成为拦阻人们道歉的原因。 当道歉沦为工具 道歉作为一种公关和舆情处理的手段,处理人和人,人和机构,机构和机构之间矛盾的手段,早已被滥用。 道歉成了缓减所有危机的一个“润滑剂”,当危机出现时,一旦有人开始道歉,似乎意味着有人胜利,然而真实的情况未必如此。 大佬们按照“商业正确”的逻辑,“资本正确”,“伦理正确”,“政治正确”的逻辑道歉,巧妙地保护了机构也保护了自己。 人们可以精心选择措辞,遣词造句,发展到今天,道歉不就是一篇命题作文吗?甚至是一场表演。 道歉道好了,皆大欢喜,道不好了,还会惹上更大的麻烦。 “我道歉了但不是真道歉” 道歉和没道歉一模一样,甚至还在道歉中成功地推脱了责任,巧妙地转移了焦点。撇清了连带关系,挥一挥衣袖,不带走一片云彩。 我道歉了,但就是不承认我该承认的关键核心部分,避重就轻,顾左右言他。绕来绕去兜圈子。例如某三色幼儿园。 有一种道歉是,表面是认错,其实是自夸。 我道歉了,在承认责任的同时,居然借着道歉“美化”了自己,无形地抬升了自己。这种“逆袭”的境界不是所有人都能做到。 有一种道歉,态度貌似“很诚恳”,上纲上线,深入骨髓,空前绝后,恨不得挥刀自宫,但就是让人觉得很虚假。 还有一种道歉,是替别人背锅。都是我的错,把别人的责任揽倒自己身上。要砍要杀,向我来吧。 还有一种道歉,也是自己没错但却认错。但是权衡之后的抉择趋于更看重的部分。比如有人道歉并不是看重对错,而是看重彼此的关系, 有人道歉是看重和谐的氛围。还有人道歉是看重自己在别人心中的形象。 没有悔改的道歉都是假道歉 对于围观群众来说,如果你相信所有的道歉都是真诚的,那你就会被骗得很惨。 很多受害者与其说渴望一个道歉,不如说渴望的是获得尊严和关注。你道歉了,说明你还在乎我。 有一些人只是要个态度,一个说法。有人为了一个说法战斗了一生。对于很多受害者来说,渴望一个道歉,是公义和愤怒表达,同时也期望看到的不只是态度,而是内在真实的悔改。 只道歉而不真悔改,或悔而不改,只治标而不治本。我真知道我错了吗?我自己眼中的错,和他人眼中的错,上帝眼中的错一样吗? 上帝透过我们的良心对我们说话。我们是否能听见那个声音?有人也许无法听见那个声音,有人听到了故意把那个声音压抑了下去。于是,悔改也有不同的方向和结果。 关键是悔改在谁面前? 悔改在消费者和用户面前,还是悔改在权力面前? 前者真金白银的利益攸关,有机构严肃对待,开始整顿,寻找补救方法,杜绝破口。也有人觉得装个样子还是很容易的,于是糊弄一下走走过场。 而面对后者,有人入戏很深,呼天抢地,恨不得自绝于民。也有人跪拜在权力的石榴裙下,完全忘记了自己的初衷。 各类组织机构按照各自领域的逻辑和套路,可以轻松做到“路线正确”的道歉和悔改。选择悔改在自己面前,还是悔改在上帝面前? 前者很容易,后者极稀缺。 悔改在自己面前的反应是,我得罪了人损害了他人的利益,同时损害了我的利益也损坏了我自己的形象。因此,我很后悔,以后避免再这样,为的是寻找各种方法不再让自己陷于不利。还是以自我为中心。 例如,一个丈夫和妻子因丈夫骂脏话而不断吵架,丈夫向妻子道歉,说自己不该说粗口。当然,下次他会避免说粗口,让自己免于再次吵架的矛盾,因为每次吵架身心疲惫。 但他内心的粗暴和骄傲却没有处理,在合适的时机还会爆发出来。所以,他的道歉和悔改,只是让他避免更多的麻烦,还是以自己为中心。 悔改在上帝面前的反应是,我得罪了神,也得罪了人。我承认我是个罪人,我需要上帝赦免的恩典。在福音中的悔改,因我相信耶稣担当了我的罪, 使我从律法的罪咎中得以释放, 赐我力量使我们得以脱离罪,不再得罪上帝和得罪人。这样的悔改是以上帝为中心的。 这样的悔改,生出的道歉是不一样的。 . . . → Read More: 道歉的正确姿势:对不起,我错了

我们呼求 – 这是呼求的季节

我们呼求  我们祷告  我们寻求  我们宣告: 在这个时代,我们都明白以色列是世界的时钟 ; 当五月十四日,美国的大使馆迁移到耶路撒冷的时候,是上帝对以色列的应许进入到一个应验的里程碑的时刻!让每一个基督徒的同心祷告,成全上帝的旨意在地如同在天,宣告 – 神的国度降临! 为此;我们宣告,那看顾以色列的神,是不打盹,也不睡觉的上帝。祂必要成全出于祂的时钟,正在按照祂自己的走向,成全在永恒里的预定! 我们也献上认罪的祷告;为世世代代无论是君王还是百姓,得罪神,得罪人的地方,献上认罪和悔改的心愿! 父神的应许是:那称为祂名下的子民,若自卑,祷告,寻求祂的面,祂必要在天上垂听,赦免我们的罪,医治这地 ( 列代志下 7:14 ) 全地的基督徒都起来吧!起来宣告基督掌权!起来祝福以色列,因为君王从她而出,国度从她而立。祝福以色列就是祝福全地,那是出于神的预备!

Celebrate Israel’s 70th Birthday… Plant Your Fruit Trees Today!

Celebrate Israel’s 70th Birthday… Plant Your Fruit Trees Today! “…for the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land… a land of wheat and barley, vines, figs and pomegranates, a land of olive oil and honey” (Deuteronomy 8:7-8) LET’S PLANT 70 ORCHARDS FOR 70 YEARS… We reached 50 orchards. 20 left . . . → Read More: Celebrate Israel’s 70th Birthday… Plant Your Fruit Trees Today!

Could US Embassy open in Jerusalem with Pollard in attendance?

Trump is reportedly examining an Israeli request to pardon Pollard in honor of Israel’s 70th Independence Day, allowing him to leave his restricted freedom in the United States. By Steve Leibowitz, World Israel News Speaking at The Jerusalem Post conference in New York, Transportation Minister Israel Katz raised the matter of the possible . . . → Read More: Could US Embassy open in Jerusalem with Pollard in attendance?

Report: 200 missiles destroyed in Syria were meant to strike Israel

Two-hundred Iranian missiles destroyed in a strike on a Syrian base were reportedly to be used against Israel. By: World Israel News Staff A strike carried out on a Syrian base near Hama on Sunday night hit a storage facility and destroyed 200 missiles, according to an official “from a regional alliance that . . . → Read More: Report: 200 missiles destroyed in Syria were meant to strike Israel

‘Iran Lied Big Time,’ Netanyahu Proves; Unveils Half a Ton of Evidence

United with Israel The Global Movement for Israel ™ Iran lied “big time” repeatedly to the international community by denying for years that the country’s nuclear program was focused on generating nuclear power for civilian purposes, Netanyahu demonstrated. By: TPS and World Israel News In a 17-minute presentation at the Ministry of Defense . . . → Read More: ‘Iran Lied Big Time,’ Netanyahu Proves; Unveils Half a Ton of Evidence

WATCH: The Jewish People Return to the Temple Mount

United with Israel The Global Movement for Israel ™ When Jews ascend the Temple Mount, it awakens feelings of joy, gratitude and recognition that the ancient prophecies are being fulfilled in our day. The Temple Mount in Jerusalem, where the Holy Temples stood, is Judaism’s holiest place on earth. The privilege of being . . . → Read More: WATCH: The Jewish People Return to the Temple Mount

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US Supreme Court Rules in Favor of Palestinian Terror-Supporting Arab Bank

United with Israel The Global Movement for Israel ™ Basing its ruling on a technicality, the US Supreme Court ruled that foreign victims of human-rights abuses and terror attacks cannot sue foreign businesses in American courts. By: AP and World Israel News Staff The US Supreme Court ruled Tuesday that foreign businesses cannot be . . . → Read More: US Supreme Court Rules in Favor of Palestinian Terror-Supporting Arab Bank

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